A Loved One’s Substance Use Is

It's time to reclaim your life from the chaos

I’m Madeleine Craig

I am an educator and life coach for families struggling with a loved one’s substance use.

My research and frameworks help you develop an informed and customized response to your loved one’s substance use so you can:

  • Compassionately support your loved one.
  • Take care of yourself.
  • Heal generational cycles.
There is no one right answer, but I can help you find the one that's right for you.
Madeleine crouching on a bridge with her two black and white springer spaniels

I want a world where…

Families have the knowldge and support needed to effectively and compassionately face the problem of a loved one’s substance use.

A loved one’s substance use isn’t so traumatizing to families because family members know how to respond, how to take care of themselves, and how to support.

Supporting families and family healing is an essential part of resolving the addiction crisis.

Here's the problem...
The Landscape of Addiction & Substance Use Disorders Is A Minefield

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Much of Our Cultural Knowledge About Addiction & Codependency Is Flawed

Much of our cultural knowledge about addiction and codependency comes from very low-bottom cases. But substance use disorders occur on a spectrum and the reality of what works is much more nuanced. Advice borne from one end of the spectrum does not not necessarily apply to the other. And myths about both addiction and codependency abound. 

Addiction Presents Two Competing Challenges

  1. Addiction and substance use disorders are a disease, which demands compassion and treatment.
  2. People active in addiction hurt people – badly. This calls for boundaries, and consequences where appropriate.

Most Responses to Addiction Only Focus On One Part of the Problem

Treatment outcomes improve with family-wide support, but the treatment industry largely ignores the damage to the family system. Without family healing, the generational cycle of addiction and dysfunction continues. On the other hand, society’s primary response to substance use is incarceration, exacerbating drug and alcohol use while offering few opportunities for treatment.

The Treatment Industry Is Largely Unregulated

There are no federally imposed standards defining what constitutes effective treatment or who is qualified to offer treatment. Counselors may or may not be licensed. Treatment methods may or may not be evidence-based. Data on treatment outcomes often artificially inflates positive outcomes. Some elements of the treatment industry are designed to increase profits through client relapse. 

Much of Our Cultural Knowledge About Addiction & Codependency Is Flawed

Much of our cultural knowledge about addiction and codependency comes from very low-bottom cases. But substance use disorders occur on a spectrum and the reality of what works is much more nuanced. Advice borne from one end of the spectrum does not not necessarily apply to the other. And myths about both addiction and codependency abound. 

Addiction Presents Two Competing Challenges

  1. Addiction and substance use disorders are a disease, which demands compassion and treatment.
  2. People active in addiction hurt people – badly. This calls for boundaries, and consequences where appropriate.

Most Responses to Addiction Only Focus On One Part of the Problem

Treatment outcomes improve with family-wide support, but the treatment industry largely ignores the damage to the family system. Without family healing, the generational cycle of addiction and dysfunction continues. On the other hand, society’s primary response to substance use is incarceration, exacerbating drug and alcohol use while offering few opportunities for treatment.

The Treatment Industry Is Largely Unregulated

There are no federally imposed standards defining what constitutes effective treatment or who is qualified to offer treatment. Counselors may or may not be licensed. Treatment methods may or may not be evidence-based. Data on treatment outcomes often artificially inflates positive outcomes. Some elements of the treatment industry are designed to increase profits through client relapse. 

  • If you’re struggling to figure out how to address your loved one’s drinking or drug use
  • If you’re worried sick about what might happen to them, and what might happen to you
  • If you’re getting conflicting advice, unsolicited advice, or advice that doesn’t seem to fit your situation

The problem is not you. 

It’s not even them. 

The reality is that there is no one solution,
no one right answer,
when it comes to substance use disorders.

And very few people understand this.

I give families the knowledge, support, coaching and clarity they need to kindly and effectively address the impacts of a loved one’s drug or alcohol use, so you can determine the right solution that fits your own needs.

I Believe To Solve These Challenges,

Families Need to Be an Essential Part of the Solution.

Let’s Make That Happen.

Starting Right Now

5 Ways to Positively Influence a Loved One's Substance Use

A 90-minute live webinar with educator and life coach Madeleine Craig.

In addition to the 5 ways to positively influence, learn common addiction myths, what to do if your loved one doesn’t believe they have a problem, and more. Time for questions will follow.

The Family Addiction Support Center

Individual Life Coaching

Work one-on-one with coach Madeleine Craig to find a response that works for you.

The Family Addiction Support Center

The Family Addiction Support Center

The effective support families struggling with substance use need.

The Family Addiction Support Center

Resources

Informational and support resources to help you on your journey.

The Family Addiction Support Center

The Family Addiction Intensive

A 10-week interactive program that provides families with the knowledge, tools, coaching, and support they need to sanely navigate the crazy-making situations, the treatment industry, and their own healing.

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Madeleine is just amazing with family members. She is loving, kind and willing to be raw and vulnerable in her work. She clearly gets it. And she has this magical ability to shift seamlessly from knowledgeable facilitator to compassionate friend who is walking the same journey in the trenches of this horrible disease. I wish that I, and my family, had met her when I was still drinking.

Mike Holliday
Physical Therapist and Athletic Trainer, Certified Life Recovery Coach
Reminder:

Addiction is not a spectator sport. Eventually the whole family gets to play.
~Joyce Rebeta-Burditt

One of the most common things families struggling with a loved one's substance use hear is that you can't control the use. And that IS true, but it's not the whole truth. Research in cognitive behavioral science shows that those closest to the user have significant influence. It IS possible to help them increase their desire to change without getting lost in codependent controlling and manipulation. This is what my work  teaches family members to do. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

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I offer a live 1-hour webinar to support families twice a month: "5 Ways Families Can Positively Influence a Loved One's Substance Use." Link in bio. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

One of the most common things families struggling with a loved one's substance use hear is that you can't control the use. And that IS true, but it's not the whole truth. Research in cognitive behavioral science shows that those closest to the user have significant influence. It IS possible to help them increase their desire to change without getting lost in codependent controlling and manipulation. This is what my work teaches family members to do. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive 💗💗💗💗💗💗 I offer a live 1-hour webinar to support families twice a month: "5 Ways Families Can Positively Influence a Loved One's Substance Use." Link in bio. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

The roadblocks families of a substance user face are formidable. The use itself drives dysfunctional relationship dynamics. Cultural myths about addiction and codependency abound. The treatment industry is an uneven and unregulated landscape, often with opaque methodologies. My work exists to address these challenges.

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My flagship program, The Family Addiction Intensive, is designed to help families go from Chaos to Clarity in the face of a loved one's substance use. Link in bio to learn more. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

The roadblocks families of a substance user face are formidable. The use itself drives dysfunctional relationship dynamics. Cultural myths about addiction and codependency abound. The treatment industry is an uneven and unregulated landscape, often with opaque methodologies. My work exists to address these challenges. 💗💗💗💗💗💗 My flagship program, The Family Addiction Intensive, is designed to help families go from Chaos to Clarity in the face of a loved one's substance use. Link in bio to learn more. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

As I repeat often in my work, family members of a loved one using substances face two competing realities: 1) addiction is a disease which demands compassion and treatment; and 2) people active in addiction hurt people. It is damn near impossible muster compassion if you're not doing what you can to set boundaries around damaging and hurtful behavior. Setting boundaries is a process and it requires an effective support system to support you in the event there is backlash. So where can you make a small start in taking care of yourself in the face of a loved one's use? Is there a small boundary you can set? Or do you need more support? If it's the latter, what small step might you take to find it?

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Hey, did you know I have a newsletter? I write it to support families struggling with a loved one's substance use. Link to subscribe in bio.  #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

As I repeat often in my work, family members of a loved one using substances face two competing realities: 1) addiction is a disease which demands compassion and treatment; and 2) people active in addiction hurt people. It is damn near impossible muster compassion if you're not doing what you can to set boundaries around damaging and hurtful behavior. Setting boundaries is a process and it requires an effective support system to support you in the event there is backlash. So where can you make a small start in taking care of yourself in the face of a loved one's use? Is there a small boundary you can set? Or do you need more support? If it's the latter, what small step might you take to find it? 💗💗💗💗💗💗 Hey, did you know I have a newsletter? I write it to support families struggling with a loved one's substance use. Link to subscribe in bio. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

Most people use substances because they like the effect. But the effect isn't just about the high or the buzz. It's about a need in their life that the high or the buzz helps them address, or a problem it helps them avoid. Getting respectfully curious about why your loved one drinks or uses - beyond just seeking the high or oblivion - can help you have far more productive conversations about the use than if you just condemn them for chasing a high. It can lead to identifying other ways a need might be met or a problem might be solved. It can outline ways you can more effectively support your loved one in changing their behavior. There's no guarantee, but we know that condemnation almost never has a positive effect.

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I offer a live 1-hour webinar to support families twice a month: "5 Ways Families Can Positively Influence a Loved One's Substance Use." Link in bio. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

Most people use substances because they like the effect. But the effect isn't just about the high or the buzz. It's about a need in their life that the high or the buzz helps them address, or a problem it helps them avoid. Getting respectfully curious about why your loved one drinks or uses - beyond just seeking the high or oblivion - can help you have far more productive conversations about the use than if you just condemn them for chasing a high. It can lead to identifying other ways a need might be met or a problem might be solved. It can outline ways you can more effectively support your loved one in changing their behavior. There's no guarantee, but we know that condemnation almost never has a positive effect. 💗💗💗💗💗💗 I offer a live 1-hour webinar to support families twice a month: "5 Ways Families Can Positively Influence a Loved One's Substance Use." Link in bio. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

When families of a loved one using substances understand the true nature of the dilemma they face, and the fact that there is no one right answer, it can reduce infighting within the family about what to do to address the problem.

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My flagship program, The Family Addiction Intensive, is designed to help families go from Chaos to Clarity in the face of a loved one's substance use. Link in bio to learn more. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

When families of a loved one using substances understand the true nature of the dilemma they face, and the fact that there is no one right answer, it can reduce infighting within the family about what to do to address the problem. 💗💗💗💗💗💗 My flagship program, The Family Addiction Intensive, is designed to help families go from Chaos to Clarity in the face of a loved one's substance use. Link in bio to learn more. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

You don't need to struggle alone. Sign up for my bi-weekly newsletter to see what other family members also struggle with.

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I educate and coach families struggling with a loved one's substance use so they can have the support and clarity they need to kindly and effectively navigate the impacts of their loved one's substance use. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

You don't need to struggle alone. Sign up for my bi-weekly newsletter to see what other family members also struggle with. 💗💗💗💗💗💗 I educate and coach families struggling with a loved one's substance use so they can have the support and clarity they need to kindly and effectively navigate the impacts of their loved one's substance use. #fromchaostoclarity #familyhealing #familyaddictionintensive

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