An Online Workshop for Families Struggling with a Loved One’s Drug or Alcohol Use
Houston, we have a problem…
- At least 96 million family members in the United States struggle with a loved one’s substance use 100% 100%
- 24 million people suffer from addiction in the US alone 25% 25%
- Only 1 in 10 people suffering from addiction receive treatment 4% 4%
- 50% of those who receive treatment will relapse 1% 1%
We don’t just have an addiction crisis.
We have a family crisis.
This is why I created the
Does any of this sound like you?
- You constantly worry about what your loved one is doing in your absence, or even in your presence. Where are they? Are they drinking or using drugs?
- You’re afraid to even know whether or not your loved one is abusing alcohol or drugs. You’re not sure you even want to know how serious the problem might be for fear you won’t be able to handle it if it’s serious.
- You can’t seem to get your loved one to realize they have a problem.
- You are feeling heartbreakingly betrayed by your loved one and their substance use.
- You wonder what happened to the person you once knew before alcohol and drugs entered your loved one’s life, or how your loved one somehow became Dr. Jekyll and M. Hyde.
- You’re starting to believe your loved one doesn’t love you or care about your because they continue to drink or use despite the problems it causes you and your family.
- You are ashamed and mortified at the thought of what others might think about your loved one’s alcohol or drug use. What if the neighbors find out? What if they already know?
- You’re overwhelmed with terrifying thoughts of worst case scenarios. What if they’re driving drunk and they kill themselves or someone else? What if they overdose? What if this problem is going to ruin my kids lives?
- You’re worried whether or not your marriage will fail, if your loved one will lose their job, if you will lose your house or if you’re going to go bankrupt trying to fix this problem.
- You’re facing questions to which it feels like there’s no good answer. Do I stay or do I go? Do I kick them out or let them stay? Do I give them money or let them fall?
- You feel like you should be able to fix they problem, and you can’t figure out why you can’t. You’re secretly afraid you might be to blame.
If any of this sounds familiar, this workshop was designed for you!
Scroll down for all the details.
Interactive WorkshopA self-paced, interactive workshop that provides families with the knowledge, tools, and support they need to sanely navigate the crazy-making situations, heal their own pain, and increase the chances their loved one will choose recovery.
Over 40 instructional videos (approx. 10 min/each.) Plus 15 video answers to Frequently Asked Questions. Over 8 hours of instruction. The comprehensive content is broken into manageable pieces. Scroll down for specific module details.
Tools for Dealing with Impossible SituationsThroughout the program, you will find valuable tips for improving outcomes and addressing the crazy-making situations that so often come with substance use.
Companion Coaching Worksheets
For each module, the Hope and Help Coaching Worksheets will support you in personalizing the program, taking your insights further with supportive coaching exercises and thought-provoking reflection questions.
Private Facebook GroupAccess to a dynamic Facebook group full of members with similar experiences and the same understanding of the problem and the solution, sharing challenges and successes, and offering and receiving support.
Lifetime AccessComplete in a few days or in eight weeks with weekly email prompts for each module. Go through the program as many times as you need. Participants receive lifetime access for as long as the workshop exists.
#1: Using EFT/Tapping to manage the stress & show up more effectively with your loved one.
#2: Addressing an elderly loved one’s problematic drug, prescription drug and/or alcohol use.
Optional 10-Week Live Group CoachingWith the optional live group coaching add-on, give yourself the extra support you need to work through the modules and address questions and problems.
There is help. There is hope.
The Family Addiction Intensive Online Workshop
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Module I: Introducing the Family Addiction Intensive
This module will:
- Introduce the essential dilemma: the two competing realities family members face – effectively addressing a loved one’s substance use is always a matter of balancing these two realities for your situation
- Show participants how to get the most out of the program
- Establish safe and supportive community participation guidelines
Module II: Gaining Clarity on the Problem and the Solution
This module will…
- Take a closer look at the two competing realities
- Outline the cultural misunderstandings that can make balancing the two competing realities more difficult than it needs to be
- Explain what to do if your loved one doesn’t think they have a problem
- Present the five actions family members must take to find their own healthy balance between the two realities, and have a positive influence on the problem
- Provide family members with exercises for identifying how the competing realities show up in their own situation so they get an idea of what a healthy balance is for them
Module III: Addressing the First Reality: Understanding the Disease of Addiction
This module will…
- Give family members as complete an understanding of addiction as possible, including its history, what we understand medically, and the most important genetic and environmental factors at play in substance use
- Identify the factors that are essential for recovery from substance use
- Provide family members with exercises to explore how symptoms of addiction may be showing up in their loved one and which factors may be at play
Module IV: Addressing the Second Reality: Understanding How Addiction Affects Families
This module will…
- Give family members as complete an understanding of how substance use affects other family members
- Identify the two primary aspects of relationships that a loved one’s substance use damages the most
- Outline the truths and myths about codependency
- Identify the top 10 most common codependent coping behaviors
- Illustrate how family coping behaviors can also mimic the symptoms of addiction
- Provide family members with exercises to see specifically which behaviors are showing up for them and for their loved one
Module V: Effective Support: The Most Important Element In Balancing the Two Realities
This module will…
- Explain what effective support is and what it isn’t
- Demonstrate why effective support is the most important factor in balancing the two realities
- List 7 sources of effective support and the pros and cons of each one
- Provide family members with exercises to gauge which sources of effective support would best suit their own situation
Module VI: Balancing the Two Realities While Your Loved One Is Still Using
This module will…
- Explain the concepts of enabling and detachment
- Provide 9 ways to keep the substance use from controlling everything.
Illustrate the 5 ways an addicted person manipulates and show family members how to respond in healthier ways
- Provide 6 ways to support yourself in the face of the crazy-making situations
- Show how to determine your own needs and define your own limits in the face of the substance use
- Help you support your loved one’s emotional needs without making yourself a doormat to the disease
- Provide family members with exercises for identifying where they might be enabling, where they are being manipulated, supporting themselves and setting boundaries in their own specific crazy-making situations, and determining and supporting their specific needs
Module VII: Balancing the Two Realities When Your Loved One Begins Recovery
This module will…
- Help you manage your expectations while your loved one is recovering
- Provide 9 ways to support both your own recovery, and now your loved one’s
- Illustrate 2 ways to handle things that trigger your fears of relapse
- Support your need to be human and provide 4 steps to take when you don’t handle your fears well
- Outline the two steps to take when your loved one reacts negatively to your concerns
- Demonstrate how to effectively communicate with your loved one
- Provide tools to have a healthy relationship with your loved one during recovery
- Provide family members with exercises for managing fears and supporting recovery, and communicating effectively and building a healthy relationship in their own specific situation
Module VIII: Navigating an Unregulated Treatment Industry
This module will…
- Provide an overview of the treatment industry and outline things to look for and things to watch out for when considering a treatment facility or sober housing
- Explain 8 things you need to do if you’re considering an intervention
- List the 5 elements of the change process
- Outline several common treatment modalities and illustrate where they do and where they do not support the process of change
- Explain the role of Medically Assisted Treatment and Harm Reduction in the recovery process
Module IX: Life Beyond Addiction: Growth, Grief, and Forgiveness
This module will…
- Help you understand the importance of balancing the two realities to your own personal growth in the long term
Present tools and supportive perspectives for facing worst-case scenarios
Illustrate the importance of grieving, even if things are going well, and provide support for the process
Identify myths and truths about forgiveness, and provide helpful exercises to support forgiveness
List ways to continue your growth and recovery
Provide family members with exercises for identifying their own growth, supporting the grief process and exploring forgiveness in their own situation.
Module X: Frequently Asked Questions
This module will…
- Provide the answers to the following Frequently Asked Questions:
- What if I think my loved one is in denial?
- My loved one’s behavior has ruined my credit / made our home unsafe / made us lose our house. How do I fix these problems I didn’t cause?
- Does my loved one have to hit rock bottom before they will accept treatment?
- How do I know if I should trust what my loved one says?
- What is it safe to talk about with my loved one?
- How do I know if it is it OK to talk to other people about my loved one’s addiction?
- How do I help my children? Should I tell them about their family member if they don’t already know?
- My loved one claims they’re smoking marijuana for medical reasons. How do I know if they really need marijuana for their problems?
- I grew up with addiction, now I have a child/spouse is also addicted. How do I address both issues?
- I’m also an addicted person in recovery. Why would I work a family recovery program when I’m already working a 12-Step program for my substance use?
Core WorkshopComprehensive and Personalized
- 10 Modules
- Hope & Help Coaching Workbook for Each Module
- Tools & Tips for Dealing with the Impossible
- Effective Support Community
- Private Facebook Group
- Lifetime Access
- Guided Meditations for Handling Stress
- Bonus #1: Using EFT to Work Through the Fear, Frustration, and Hurt
- Bonus #2: Helping an Elderly Loved One with Substance Use Problems
Core Workshop with 20-Weeks Live Group CoachingGet the Extra Support You Need
- Everything Included in the Core Workshop
- 20 Weekly 1-Hour Live Group Coaching Sessions via Zoom
- Each Week Focuses on One Module – Program Participants Can Go Through Each Module Twice
- 1-2 Coaching Exercises Based on Pre-Submitted Participant Questions per Week
- Downloadable Coaching Session Recordings
- This is where some really special magic and transformation happens for family members!
Frequently Asked Questions
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What, exactly, will I gain from going through this program?
When does the program begin and end?
The program modules will be released in 2020. From the point at which you purchase the program, you will have lifetime access to the program for as long as the program exists, including access to any updates that are made to the program. You may proceed through the program at any pace you wish. You will receive a weekly email presenting the next module, however, from the point you registered. These weekly emails serve as a gentle reminder that the modules are there waiting for you if you get side-tracked.
Will there be a way to ask questions?
There are several ways to ask questions, depending on which option you register for. With the core Workshop, you can ask questions in the comments below the videos and in the private Facebook group. You can also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, but it’s best to ask questions about the content in the comments or on Facebook, as others may also have a similar question. If there are too many questions for me and my team to address, the questions whose answers are most likely to apply to more than one person will receive priority. For those who sign up for the Workshop with the 20-week live group coaching option, the live group coaching sessions will also be an opportunity to ask questions. You may submit questions prior to the sessions via email at email@example.com
How is this program different from other family support programs?
I’m not sure if my loved one has a problem or not. Is this program still right for me?
What if I fall behind?
I’m already in a family support program. Is this program still right for me?
I have a pretty mediocre Internet connection. What are the tech requirements for this program?
If you can play other videos relatively easily with your internet connection, you can access the content in this workshop. You may be challenged if you still have a dial-up internet connection. In this case, you may be better off accessing the content from somewhere with a broadband connection. I recommend accessing the workshop through either Chrome, Firefox or Safari. I do not recommend accessing the workshop through Explorer as it is known to be problematic. The specific browser requirements for accessing the content are:
- Desktop 58+
- Android 59+
- Firefox 52+
- Internet Explorer 11+
- MS Edge 14+
1. Desktop 10+
2. iOS 10+
- Mobile Devices
1. iPhone 5s+ Safari iOS 9+
2. iPad 2+ Safari iOS 9+
3. Android 4.0+ Chrome Android 4.0+
My loved one has mental health problems in addition to substance use. Will this program still help me?
My loved one will be enraged if s/he finds out I’m in this program. How can I avoid that and still participate in this program?
What happens after I register for the program?
When you sign up for the program, you will create a username and password that you will need to log into the Madeleine Craig Client Center. Once you complete your registration and payment for the program, you will receive a welcome email with your username (you will need to remember your password), the link to log into the online workshop platform (Client Center), and other information you need to know about the program and next steps. When you log into the Client Center, you will be taken to the home page of the Hope for Families Online Workshop. On this page you will find a welcome video, a video tour of the online course platform, links to all of the Workshop modules, to the private Facebook group for the program, to a course dashboard where you can track your progress in the Workshop, and to the community participation guidelines. Each module page has the videos for that module, links to download the Hope and Help Coaching Workbook for that module, a checklist for the objectives for that module, and links to join the discussion for each video. All modules are available immediately. You can complete the Workshop in a 2-day binge, or one module a week following the weekly emails or taking whatever amount of time you need. You can repeat the Workshop as often as you like.
What happens in the live group coaching sessions?
What if I miss one of the live group coaching sessions? Will they be recorded?
Do you support other recovery organizations?
Do you receive kickbacks from treatment providers or other recovery organizations?
What if I decide the program isn’t right for me? Can I get a refund?
The registration fee for the Family Addiction Intensive is non-refundable. I highly recommend you do the ‘5 Actions Family Members Must Take to Effectively Address a Loved One’s Substance Use’ webinar before signing up for this program. This webinar will give you a more detailed overview of the program and a preview of the workshop portal.
I don’t do “guarantees”. Here’s why: I encourage, and help you, apply this work and the learning to your specific needs. The Hope and Help Worksheets customize this program in ways that are specific to you. Everyone struggling with a love one’s substance use comes to this program with different life experience. You will need to be an active participant in making this program your own. I will support you in doing that, but telling you exactly what will happen for you, and forcing your progress on this journey in order to meet an arbitrary guarantee, is not effective for this work or conducive to positive outcomes.
What I promise is that I show up, and deliver, a workshop I am immensely proud of because it has helped so many families in profound and life-changing ways. And… you have to do your part in showing for the work and applying the program in ways that work for you.
You can expect humor, respect, a request and honoring of confidentiality, non-judgment, language of the gut and of the heart (not always for delicate ears), and a shit ton of compassion.
I can’t afford this program. Can you still help me?
I know the cost of this workshop may be too big of a financial burden for some. I will be devoting 5% of the profits from this workshop each month to offering partial scholarships to defray the cost of the workshop for those in need. Please check out my blog in the meantime and sign up for the newsletter.
Is this workshop considered therapy?
Addiction and its effects on family members are incredibly tricky wickets.
A loved one’s addiction creates stress that affects every aspect of family members’ lives: their well-being, their relationships, their health, and their jobs.
The thing is, family members of a loved one affected by alcoholism or addiction face a herculean, and seemingly impossible challenge:
How do they support a loved one affected by chemical dependency?
How do they take care of themselves in the face of the terribly hurtful and often destructive consequences that almost always come with their loved one’s addiction?
To family members, it can feel like they have to choose one or the other. Their loved ones may even try to convince them of this through guilt, blame and other kinds of emotional manipulation.
And yet the choice itself amounts to a torturous form of Sophie’s choice: families either must fight to save the life of their loved one, or fight to save their own.
But family members do NOT have to choose. Nor should they.
It is not easy, but navigating a path between those two objectives actually offers families the best hope for both their loved one’s recovery and their own healing.
It IS possible for families to support a chemically dependent loved one AND take care of themselves in the face of the significant emotional, physical, professional, and financial challenges that addiction presents.
Educator, Workshop Facilitator, Professional Life Coach
I am an experienced educator and a professionally trained life coach working to provide families struggling with a loved one’s substance use with the knowledge, tools