An Online Workshop for Families Struggling with a Loved One’s Drug or Alcohol Use

Launches December 1, 2017

Houston, we have a problem…

  • At least 96 million family members in the United States struggle with a loved one’s substance use 100%
  • 24 million people suffer from addiction in the US alone 25%
  • Only 1 in 10 people suffering from addiction receive treatment 4%
  • 50% of those who receive treatment will relapse 1%

We don’t just have an addiction crisis.

We have a family crisis.

This is why I created the

Madeleine is just amazing with family members. She is loving, kind and willing to be raw and vulnerable in her work. She clearly gets it. And she has this magical ability to shift seamlessly from knowledgeable facilitator to compassionate friend who is walking the same journey in the trenches of this horrible disease. I wish that I, and my family, had met her when I was still drinking. Mike Holliday

Physical Therapist and Athletic Trainer, Certified Life Recovery Coach

Does any of this sound like you?

  • You constantly worry about what your loved one is doing in your absence, or even in your presence. Where are they? Are they drinking or using drugs?
  • You’re afraid to even know whether or not your loved one is abusing alcohol or drugs. You’re not sure you even want to know how serious the problem might be for fear you won’t be able to handle it if it’s serious.
  • You can’t seem to get your loved one to realize they have a problem.
  • You are feeling heartbreakingly betrayed by your loved one and their substance use.
  • You wonder what happened to the person you once knew before alcohol and drugs entered your loved one’s life, or how your loved one somehow became Dr. Jekyll and M. Hyde.
  • You’re starting to believe your loved one doesn’t love you or care about your because they continue to drink or use despite the problems it causes you and your family.
  • You are ashamed and mortified at the thought of what others might think about your loved one’s alcohol or drug use. What if the neighbors find out? What if they already know?
  • You’re overwhelmed with terrifying thoughts of worst case scenarios. What if they’re driving drunk and they kill themselves or someone else? What if they overdose? What if this problem is going to ruin my kids lives?
  • You’re worried whether or not your marriage will fail, if your loved one will lose their job, if you will lose your house or if you’re going to go bankrupt trying to fix this problem.
  • You’re facing questions to which it feels like there’s no good answer. Do I stay or do I go? Do I kick them out or let them stay? Do I give them money or let them fall?
  • You feel like you should be able to fix they problem, and you can’t figure out why you can’t. You’re secretly afraid you might be to blame.

If any of this sounds familiar, this workshop was designed for you!

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Hope for Families Online Workshop

Interactive Self-Paced Workshop

A self-paced, interactive workshop that provides families with the knowledge, tools, and support they need to sanely navigate the crazy-making situations, heal their own pain, and increase the chances their loved one will choose recovery.

8 Modules

31 instructional videos. Plus 16 video answers to Frequently Asked Questions. Over 5 hours of instruction. The comprehensive content is broken into manageable pieces. <em>Scroll down for specific module details</em>.

Companion Coaching & Reflection Worksheets

For each video, the <em><strong>Hope and Help Worksheets</strong></em> will support you in taking your insights further with supportive coaching exercises and thought-provoking reflection questions.

Private Facebook Group

Access to a dynamic Facebook group full of members with similar experiences and the same understanding of the problem and the solution, sharing challenges and successes, and offering and receiving support.

Lifetime Access

Complete in a few days or in eight weeks with weekly email prompts for each module. Go through the program as many times as you need. Participants receive lifetime access for as long as the workshop exists.

Ready to Register?

Only $449 for lifetime access. Click the button below to be notified when registration opens!



Compassionate and knowledgeable, Madeleine has walked the walk and brings both professional and personal experiences to working with families. Highly motivated and a person of integrity, she brings her best self to serve each participant. Julie E.

Family Member - Mother

There is help.  There is hope.

The Hope for Families Online Workshop

Module I: Welcome to the Hope for Families Online Workshop!

In this module participants will learn:

  • How the workshop is structured
  • 5 Community Participation Guidelines
  • 8 things you need to know as you go through the workshop
Module II: Gaining Clarity on the Problem and the Solution

At the end of this module participants will…

  • Identify the two misguided expectations that keep family members stuck in an ineffective and addictive dynamic in their relationship with their substance using loved one
  • Identify the two issues family members can in fact have a positive and constructive influence
  • Recognize the problems from which family members suffer if the effects of addiction on family members are not addressed
  • Understand the role compassion plays in effectively facing the challenges your loved one’s substance use creates
  • Understand the important role your own healing from the pain plays in having compassion and supporting your loved one’s recovery
  • Learn why the effects addiction on family members often remain invisible to others
  • Understand that your own healing can play a significant role in improving the current statistics on addiction (N.B. – How and why it helps comes in a later module.)
  • Identify the 3 fundamental things families must do, to the best of their ability, to heal from the pain of their loved one’s use and increase the chances of their loved one choosing to recover
  • Learn what to do if your loved one does not believe they have a problem
Module III: Understanding the Disease of Addiction - 3 perspectives

At the end of this module participants will…

  • Understand the history of addiction as a disease
  • Understand the basic workings of the addictive processes in the brain of an addicted person
  • Identify the two different bases of the genetic underpinnings of addiction: genetic predisposition to addiction itself, or genetic sensitivity to stress?
  • Recognize why family members are not to blame
  • Identify the specific aspects of the addictive processes that family members can positively influence
  • Understand that recovery from addiction is possible and identify the factors that are essential for recovery
  • Identify more effective ways to respond to your loved one that recognize their substance use as a disease
Module IV: Understanding How Addiction Affects Families

At the end of this module participants will…


  • Identify the primary symptom of addiction as it concerns family and friends
  • How the symptoms of the disease lead families and friends to take the disease personally
  • Understand how addiction affects family members and how family members ultimately “get sick” too
  • Identify the 8 common family coping behaviors that complicate the problem
  • Analyze specifically the ways your loved one’s substance use has affected you personally and identify where you most need healing
  • Recognize the ways, without their own support, family members typically react to their loved one’s substance use, and why they are unhelpful and often counterproductive
  • Understand how family members unwittingly mimic the symptoms of addiction, and identify the ways in which you might be mimicking your loved one’s symptoms
  • Ask themselves 36 questions to determine specifically how the problem is showing up in their own lives
Module V: Effective Support - the Most Important Factor in Turning Things Around

At the end of this module you will…

  • Understand the 8 reasons why effective support is the most important factor in changing your experience
  • Identify the 4 things that constitute effective support
  • Identify 7 sources of effective support for family members and understand the benefits and drawbacks of each one
Module VI: How to Heal Yourself and Positively Influence Your Loved One's Chances of Recovery

At the end of this module you will…

  • Recognize your ability to influence your loved one’s behavior while also understanding you are powerless to ultimately control it if your loved one insists on using
  • Learn 9 ways to keep your loved one’s substance abuse from controlling everything in your life
  • Recognize the 5 primary ways your loved one manipulates you and learn how to respond to these attempts at manipulation in healthier ways
  • Understand how to effectively determine your needs and identify your limits in the face of the substance use
  • Learn 6 ways to support yourself in the face of the impossible and crazy-making situations your loved one’s substance use creates
  • Identify 5 resources that will give you a very comprehensive understanding of both the disease of addiction and the essential elements and stages of the recovery process, thus making it more difficult for your loved one to lie about their use or their recovery
  • Understand why interventions can sometimes be counterproductive, making recovery less likely, and identify 8 things you need to know, and do, if you are considering an intervention, to ensure it helps rather than hinders your loved one’s chances of recovery
Module VII: What to Do When Your Loved One Enters Treatment

At the end of this module you will…

  • Identify 8 ways to support your own healing during and after treatment and support your loved one’s chances of long-term recovery
  • Learn the 2 steps to handling your fears of relapse
  • Learn the 2 steps to take if your loved one reacts negatively to your concerns
  • Learn the 4 steps to take  when you don’t handle your fears well
  • Identify the elements of effective and ineffective communication with your loved one
  • Understand what constitutes a healthy relationship moving forward
Module VIII: Frequently Asked Questions and Determining Your Next Steps

At the end of this module you will…

  • Understand the 10 reasons this program works
  • Identify avenues for continuing your healing and supporting your loved one after the workshop
  • Have 5 easy-to-remember maxims to support you moving forward
  • Understand what forgiveness does and does not mean when it comes to your loved one’s substance use
  • Know the answers to the following Frequently Asked Questions:
  1. What if they refuse to seek help?
  2. What if I think my loved one is in denial?
  3. My loved one’s behavior has ruined my credit / made our home unsafe / made us lose our house. How do I fix these problems I didn’t cause?
  4. Does my loved one have to hit rock bottom before they will accept treatment?
  5. How do I know if I should trust what my loved one says?
  6. What is it safe to talk about with my loved one?
  7. How do I know if it is it OK to talk to other people about my loved one’s addiction?
  8. How do I help my children? Should I tell them about their family member if they don’t already know?
  9. How do I know what kind of treatment my loved one needs?
  10. I’ve heard that medically assisted treatment isn’t actually abstinence. Should my loved one use it?
  11. What is harm reduction? Will it help my loved one?
  12. I’ve heard that 12-Step programs don’t work. Is that true?
  13. My loved one claims they’re smoking marijuana for medical reasons. How do I know if they really need marijuana for their problems?
  14. My insurance won’t cover in-patient treatment. I thought the Affordable Care Act made addiction care a requirement for all insurance plans.
  15. I grew up with addiction, now I have a child/spouse is also addicted. How do I address both issues?
  16. I’m also an addicted person in recovery. Why would I work a family recovery program when I’m already working a 12-Step program for my substance use?




Addiction and its effects on family members are incredibly tricky wickets.

A loved one’s addiction creates stress that affects every aspect of family members’ lives: their well-being, their relationships, their health, and their jobs.

The thing is, family members of a loved one affected by alcoholism or addiction face a herculean, and seemingly impossible challenge:

How do they support a loved one affected by chemical dependency?


How do they take care of themselves in the face of the terribly hurtful and often destructive consequences that almost always come with their loved one’s addiction?

To family members, it can feel like they have to choose one or the other. Their loved ones may even try to convince them of this through guilt, blame and other kinds of emotional manipulation.

And yet the choice itself amounts to a torturous form of Sophie’s choice: families either must fight to save the life of their loved one, or fight to save their own.

But family members do NOT have to choose. Nor should they.

It is not easy, but navigating a path between those two objectives actually offers families the best hope for both their loved one’s recovery and their own healing.

It IS possible for families to support a chemically dependent loved one AND take care of themselves in the face of the significant emotional, physical, professional, and financial challenges that addiction presents.




You are so calm and peaceful.  You put everyone at ease right away. Anonymous

An inspiration – a true authentic woman who is great at sharing her experience, strength and hope. Anonymous


Madeleine Craig

Madeleine Craig

Educator, Workshop Facilitator, Professional Life Coach

I am an experienced educator and a professionally trained life coach working to provide families struggling with a loved one’s substance use with the knowledge, tools and support they need to sanely navigate the crazy-making situations, heal their own pain, and increase the chances their loved one will choose recovery. I also have an ongoing practice with 12-Step spiritual principles, and in my other work, Fourth Dimension Coaching,</font color>, I use coaching tools to support people in 12-Step recovery in deepening their understanding of the spiritual principles of the 12-Step process, and in rebuilding their faith in themselves and in the possibilities life holds in the face of past addictions or family addiction.